Vulnerability

“And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness”. – 2 Cor. 12:9a KJV

When God created man in the Garden of Eden, he was completely naked and when Eve was formed, she had no reason to feel ashamed. This scenario perfectly describes what vulnerability is.

Being vulnerable in marriage is when both parties are completely exposed to each other. They stand totally unashamed without having any secrets. Vulnerability is telling your spouse that this is all there is to you.

Vulnerability is a very important ingredient of a successful marriage, yet, when it comes to opening up, this is a struggle many of us face.

We seek intimacy and connection but most times we are scared of being truly exposed.

Vulnerability is most times seen as a sign of weakness but in fact it is a sign of courage and strength.

Allowing yourself to learn to say “I love you” first without feeling like you went over the edge. Also learn to say “I am sorry” when you are at fault and some times, even when it looks like nobody is at fault yet there is an issue.

Over the years, the Holy Spirit has dealt with me especially in the area of being the first to apologize even when I am obviously not at fault. In those instances, I could almost slap the Holy Spirit if I could see Him physically. Like why should I apologize when it is not my fault?

I just could not see any sense in doing that. It is interesting to know how much of a humorous person the Holy Spirit is. With time, I noticed that my husband also started learning to do the same and would even boast to his friends how he valued me just because of this singular act.

The Holy Spirit is always ready to help us to be vulnerable if we truly are ready. Some of us cringe so much at the thought of vulnerability that we are even ashamed to talk to our Father, the one who knows us in and out.

Vulnerability is a virtue we need to build and adopt in order to build a strong emotional intimacy with our spouses.

Prayer Moment

● Take out time to reflect on how vulnerable you are in your marriage today. Can you say what you think and ask for what you need in a soft way and without fear?

And are you willing to learn to be more vulnerable in the way you communicate in your marriage? Ask the Holy Spirit to help you because He is always there to help us all through the way.

Think Over it

What is God saying to me today?